interview.
while i had been single, a friend (who also was single at the time) had taken notice how i hadn’t really been doing much to get back into the dating scene. when confronted, she had asked me, “don’t you want to find the person you want to love forever?” she had complained that it had been hard for her to meet these nice guys, and that it had seemed her fate was to remain single for a lifetime. i was somewhat disappointed and irritated by her response, since i had heard many scenarios like hers, and this was how i had felt about it at the time:
love isn’t something that should be searched for, because we are all surrounded by it. it would be foolish of us to confuse love with lust, which is the prominent action behind the idea for “searching for love.”
say someone has developed feelings of love towards you, yet you shy away because of how they appear physically. as men, our egos play too much of a role in this area, which inevitably results in feelings such as feeling ashamed to be seen in public together. i can’t confidently say how women feel towards this issue, however, you have failed to see the potential love that another person could have given to you because of your quest for someone with better looks.
or say you had notice yourself developing feelings toward another person, yet unfortunately, that person does not share the same feelings that you are experiencing. again, as men, our egos take on the role as our worst enemy, and we develop the mentality of keeping that person by any means necessary. it should be clear to most of us that this is an act of lust to fulfill our selfish desires, and that if we had truly “loved” a person like how we say we claim, then we should be able to let that person go in pursuit of finding someone who makes them happy.
so when the time comes when i’ll be able to see clearly who it is that i will be able to attract and love equally, will be the day i shall find myself in an awesome relationship. should that day never come, then it shall be a self-relationship on how to humble my heart and soul.
